James

What Causes Fights?

Intro

What Causes Fights?

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions (James 4:1–3).


Illustration


Mind

  • What is that James says causes anger and fights?

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions (James 4:1–3).

  • Why does God often not give us what we ask for?


Motive

  • What is it that is at war within us?

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? (James 4:1)



If we want something so much that we are willing to sin to get it, then we have made an idol of that thing.

  • Can you remember a time that you wanted something so much that it led you to sin? (Maybe a fight with a spouse or sibling)

Memory Verse



What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? (James 4:1)




Mission

Is there someone that you need to seek forgiveness from today? Do not delay, in Matthew 6:14-15 Jesus says, “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses (Matthew 6:14–15). How is it that we as Christians are willing to receive incredible mercy from God and not show it to others. We can’t do this, and Jesus commands us not to. Seek forgiveness where necessary today and rejoice in how great grace - even where there is legitimate wrongdoing - shows the gospel.

Also, pay attention to your anger. Again, if you are willing to sin in order to get something, you have made what you want an idol. You are willing to disobey the true God to get access to another god. Ask your heavenly Father to satisfy you in him - he will be glad to do it.



Worship




Prayer

Ask God to help you turn away from wrong passions and turn toward him. Remember to ask him for help rightly, not spending his grace on your passions and wants, but to get more of him.





Further Study